An Affair to Remember

My GF panel of experts met over the normal coffee and gossip session today, we were all in turmoil over an acquaintance who's husband just left her for a 26 year old. On the one hand, this is bad news for the over 30's amongst us, this woman had no idea her husband was seeing a younger woman. This bought us to the question of .."are you really unaware when your partner is wandering". If your connection is right with your partner/husband/consenting slave, do we really have no idea their attentions are elsewhere? I'm not so sure. Signs are everywhere, I, for one have never been in that situation, but I do consider humans to be inquisitive creatures who are probably not meant to be with one person for their all of their lives. Over a life time we change, we grow, our wants and needs change, does this make us a bad person if we desire others, is it realistic to want what you don't have? It's human nature of course, but I do feel for those women and men who really have no idea as to where their partner's attentions are focused, sometimes I think, we don't want to see it, close our minds to that proposterous idea ..only to have your world crumpled when your perception is so different to what you visualise, that's soul destroying. Is an affair a shake up for an already dying marriage, painful as it must be, I would consider being lied to as a sure fire way to look inside myself to see what has provoked this situation and move swiftly to the therapists office, I consider honesty one of the deal breakers in my relationships. If you don't have that, what do you have?