Honest to Goodness

I have this propensity to be honest to the point of blatant. I figured that in relationships in life especially the one with ourselves or myself more the point is where honesty is needed most. But I suppose where does the line lie between being honest and fabricating truths to save feelings of those we love. I love my girlfriends so much, but to hurt them unnecessary by telling them "actually its because your needy" or "your intelligence is frightening away potential partners" is this a necessary part of taking honest skills to a new level. There is tact I hear you say.

I have this wicked part of my personality and I mean wicked in a bad sense not good, but I tend to have standards that are way up high, for myself and everyone else in my life gets the live the lower easy to pass standards, am I lying to myself in a sense making myself live a life impossible by expecting perfection. I have figured that treating oneself the same as you would treat others a hard life lesson with the critical self talk in my head bleating "but you should know better" or "I'm just not good enough I should try harder" do we all share this or not. I know some of my friends don't feel guilt on the level that I do, nor do they have the same ambitious qualities. I think my point of this small soap box saga today is be kind to yourself, be gentle with yourself, hug yourself mentally, hold your own hand and tell yourself its all going to be alright. This has been a difficult life lesson for me to learn but a valuable one, for at the end of the day you really have only yourself in the dark as he snores beside you. To be at peace with oneself is to truly find happiness.