An Affair to Remember

My GF panel of experts met over the normal coffee and gossip session today, we were all in turmoil over an acquaintance who's husband just left her for a 26 year old. On the one hand, this is bad news for the over 30's amongst us, this woman had no idea her husband was seeing a younger woman. This bought us to the question of .."are you really unaware when your partner is wandering". If your connection is right with your partner/husband/consenting slave, do we really have no idea their attentions are elsewhere? I'm not so sure. Signs are everywhere, I, for one have never been in that situation, but I do consider humans to be inquisitive creatures who are probably not meant to be with one person for their all of their lives. Over a life time we change, we grow, our wants and needs change, does this make us a bad person if we desire others, is it realistic to want what you don't have? It's human nature of course, but I do feel for those women and men who really have no idea as to where their partner's attentions are focused, sometimes I think, we don't want to see it, close our minds to that proposterous idea ..only to have your world crumpled when your perception is so different to what you visualise, that's soul destroying. Is an affair a shake up for an already dying marriage, painful as it must be, I would consider being lied to as a sure fire way to look inside myself to see what has provoked this situation and move swiftly to the therapists office, I consider honesty one of the deal breakers in my relationships. If you don't have that, what do you have?

To Communicate or Not!

It was wine, good girl friends and discussions that bought about my topic this week, is communication overrated.

I always considered feelings, thoughts and expression of how one feels to be a good thing and after discussions with several good girlfriends of mine, I beg to differ on this. Communicating is really a girl thing. You get the "honey I want to talk about something" panic face in your partner whenever some little tidbit is on the tip of your tongue. I tend to express everything, every thought random or otherwise entering my head comes directly out of my mouth. This is good right ? NOOOO apparently not. I have never been good at non expression. But my freedom of speech is never truly appreciated when it comes to my significant other. Why is this. I thought he would be over the moon about knowing exactly what I think. But he would prefer non expression and sticking head in sand syndrome. After consideration and deliberation with my girl panel, it was decided women have tendency to share and share and share and men have a tendency to repress every thought. This is a pretty broad assumption with the exception of both sexes. Romeo was able to express his heartfelt love for Juliet but Big couldn't tell Carrie (Sex in the City) "hey I don't want a big freaking fiasco wedding with half of New York, Ill just not show". So which is it we prefer as the fairer sex, I for one, love a expressive man. Reasons being 1. You know where you stand and where you don't. 2. Its easier to navigate a relationship with freedom of speech. 3. Someone who can hold their own with my expressive nature renders extremely attractive in my eyes.

Another one of the worlds issues sorted in a few short lines WOOT!